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The dominant function of the ISFP is introverted feeling. Its second function is extraverted sensation. This combination has the effect that, like no other type, he is able to perceive his physical needs and strives to bring his environment into harmony with them.

This drive often leads to an outstanding sense of aesthetics and the finer things in life. ISFPs enjoy living in the "here and now" and have excellent perceptions of the material world around them. Often they have an artistic streak, and in fact they are overrepresented in many areas of the arts. You are gifted at combining and creating works that appeal to the senses. Even if ISFPs don't make this skill their profession, an appreciation for aesthetics shows up in many areas of their lives. Often they have a hobby in which they can develop their creative abilities. Most ISFPs feel an intense need to be creative in some way. This is because their introverted feeling needs outside input. Only when performing an activity through which the ISFP can perceive itself and its environment with the senses, is it able to feel the invigorating effect of its first function. Their application is directly linked to the creative process.

ISFPs are naturally gentle and unobtrusive. ISFPs have a rich emotional life, but little of it gets out. At most, they confide in people who are very close to them. It is usually difficult for them to put their feelings into words. They prefer to express this through their actions.

In general, they come across as friendly, if a little reserved. They are considerate of others and are reluctant to impose their opinions on them. You avoid open conflict and are interested in a harmonious coexistence. Because their emotional function is inward, ISFPs are more reluctant to share these feelings with others. Often their facial features appear childishly harmless, occasionally also cool and distant repellent. They often adopt the latter appearance when their feelings are hurt or other people seem too intrusive to them. This can already be the case when other people express their feelings exuberantly and, in the opinion of the ISFP, too intensely. They are usually uncomfortable when others try to create certain feelings in them.

They notice the finest nuances in the appearance of their fellow human beings and usually come to the right conclusions about their feelings. Their introversion is mostly shown in the need to spend time alone. Since they are very considerate when dealing with others, they limit themselves greatly in society. To compensate, they like to create free spaces where they want to be undisturbed and can react very insufferably when these rather invisible boundaries are intentionally but also accidentally violated by others.

Through the emotional evaluation of their environment, they create a strong internal value system and strive to orient their actions accordingly. ISFPs are often stubborn when they have the impression that they are being controlled by others. They are reluctant to bow to peer pressure, although they reject them less aggressively, but rather prefer to withdraw. Their cultural interests are often outside the mainstream.

ISFPs let things happen and avoid making plans. They prefer to act spontaneously and rely on improvisation. In this they are similar to the other SP types, especially the ESFP. However, it is precisely this that enjoys the unpredictability of immediate sensory experience. Since the ISFP is primarily a judgmental type, he is less interested in the new experience than in aligning his experiences with his own value system. The desire to live in harmony with one's own ideals can make some ISFP cautious about new impressions and lead them to prefer familiar, pleasant sensual experiences.

As children, ISFPs are curious explorers who feel no compulsion to achieve any goals. They enjoy exploring their environment, be it plants, animals, unusual objects or people, and often forget the rituals and guidelines of their family. If the parents attach great importance to structure and order, the otherwise very sensitive children can quickly be given the feeling that they are doing everything wrong. ISFP children learn best through exploration, and this also means grasping the subject with all your senses and actively examining its practical benefits. Conventional school methods are too abstract for most ISFPs. If you do not see the applicability of the knowledge and the relation to your life, you are not very motivated to concern yourself with it.

The career choice of an ISFP is mostly based not so much on prestige and budget as on the desire to find a personally fulfilling profession. Accordingly, ISFPs are particularly suitable for professions in which they can live out their creative abilities. ISFPs should focus more on their ability to improvise and look for jobs that offer varied activities and plenty of freedom to try things out.

Because of their ability to sense needs, ISFPs are capable of unusually high levels of empathy. Helping other people and living beings with their practical skills is a fulfilling experience for many ISFPs. Her empathetic nature predestines her for social professions.

They tend to ignore general guidelines for action and develop their own unconventional approaches. Therefore, professions with rigid guidelines, high administrative costs and a lot of routine activities are in the long run unsatisfactory for the freedom-loving ISFP.

ISFPs rarely get into executive positions - and if they do, then less from inner conviction. Your discomfort at being controlled includes an unwillingness to control others. They may live up to their role in the short term, but in the longer term, setting up and enforcing deadlines and the constant need to use certain processes and control mechanisms is exhausting and stressful for ISFPs.

ISFPs prefer to work behind the scenes to complete specific tasks. In doing so, they are very conscientious and anxious to make their best possible contribution. ISFPs tend to sell their ability below value. As they are reluctant to talk about themselves, it often happens to them that less suitable people take home the laurels.

Under the dominant influence of introverted feeling, ISFPs run the risk of having excessive expectations of themselves and others. This happens especially when ISFPs fail to balance their dominant function with their second function - the extraverted feeling. The extraverted feeling helps them many to gather different experiences and thus to constantly revise their value system. Since ISFPs strongly link their value system with their identity, immature ISFPs in particular fear that they will distance themselves from themselves through new experiences and the resulting revision of their values ​​and thereby become unfaithful to their own values.

In fact, they overlook the fact that their judgment function is based on constantly evaluating new experiences. The quality of the resulting knowledge strongly depends on the number and breadth of experiences. Nobody would consult a wine connoisseur who has only tasted twenty wines in their lifetime. Accordingly, the value system of the ISFP is only as good as the experiences made in real life. ISFPs need to be careful not to shut themselves off to new experiences. Because without sufficient experience, their value system is unable to discriminate between values ​​that represent fundamentally human concerns and must be defended as generally binding and those that arise only from their subjective whim. The values ​​based on an inadequate factual basis are mostly not achievable.

Holding on to unrealistic expectations of oneself and others leads to constant disappointment and increases the tendency of the ISFP to doubt and withdraw.

If such a condition persists for a long time, the resulting permanent stress can also lead to the ISFP falling into the clutches of its underdeveloped function - extraverted thinking. While an experienced user normally uses this function in order to achieve certain specified goals as efficiently as possible by executing standardized procedures, it tends to lead a neglected existence with the ISFP. The ISFP normally suspects the impersonal, purely expediency-based way of judging. He often defends himself against the perceived inhumanity of institutionalized procedures.

Under the archaic influence of extraverted thinking, the ISFP is convinced that its subjective values ​​are the right ones, plagued by the fear of being incompetent, it accuses others of incompetence. He develops a rigid black and white way of thinking and has no problems convincing others of the correctness of his views and methods in an unusually negative way (for his type) and ordering them around.

However, such a negative development can also occur regardless of the above scenario if ISFPs fear the loss of loved ones, live in an environment that is hostile to their legitimate values ​​or forces them to a high degree of organization and structured procedures and thus undermines the ISFP's confidence in its own methods.

The better ISFPs learn to accept their reality, the more clearly they recognize that their value system and thus they themselves are still intact when those around them do not represent these values. An ISFP with a well-developed value system can serve as a role model through his convincing action and point out alternative possibilities that help others to go their own way - beyond standardized collective ideas about right and wrong.

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