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Praising children: 5 valuable tips for good praise

of Pia Kotzur Updated: 03/01/2017

Many parents praise their children a lot and regularly, with the intention of doing them something good and strengthening their self-esteem. But praise is not always good for your child. Our expert Rosina Geltinger has put together five important tips for you that you should keep in mind when praising your child.

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1. Don't use praise as manipulation

Example: "If you sleep now, then you are a good child". This manipulates the child. So it knows that it will be praised when it does what mum or others want or ask of it. However, no conditions should be attached to praise.

2. Praise children: Only if you mean it honestly

The child feels intuitively whether it is being praised sincerely or whether the mother is only saying nice things so that there is finally peace. Likewise, overly general, exaggerated or manipulative praise is useless. It is better to give less praise, but to be genuine and sincere.

3. Fill your praise with words

Instead of little expressive phrases like “you did that great”, it is much more valuable for your child and also better for their development if the praise is also filled with words. For example, “Wow, did you climb the monkey bars quickly? You seem to have a lot of fun ”. This will make your child feel understood, seen and sense your interest.

4. Not too much of a good thing

Be careful with your praise so that it does not lose its value. Too frequent and excessive praise can easily lead your child to think they did something wrong if they were not explicitly praised as good and right. A good alternative to this is a neutral confirmation like "But now you have quickly climbed the monkey bars" instead of "You did a great job."

5. Praise children: not too fast

When your child has mastered something difficult for the first time, feelings of happiness flood them. If you praise your child in such a case immediately after the act, you are depriving them of the chance to consciously experience this feeling. Therefore only give praise when the child seeks your confirmation, e.g. through eye contact, or "Mom, did you see that ...".

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