Why is he so nervous around me

Everyday family life in the corona crisis

A little story from everyday life at the beginning:
A woman gets on the subway with a 4 year old child. The child storms in, holds on to the handrail and begins to spin wildly in circles. The woman runs after them breathlessly, she tries to influence the child by urging it to calm down, constantly asking questions and at the same time urgently calling out the answers to the child in a loud voice and hectic.
The child sits down on a seat that has become vacant, whips around, kicks the person sitting across from him with his legs. The mother is totally annoyed, talks and admonishes the child. She herself stops and tries again and again to sit the child “correctly” by pulling on the child's clothes. A brief moment of relaxation in which the child would like to look out the window with interest ends suddenly! Much too late, the mother realizes that they wanted to get off at the last stop. "This is all your fault now because you drive me crazy with your kind! Come quickly! Stop it! Stop that! ... "Are the last words I hear before the woman angrily pulls the child out of the subway by the hood!
The widespread social tenor is unmistakable: more and more children are difficult, fidgety, cannot concentrate ... ... quickly there are all sorts of diagnoses from more or less authorized experts with the promise: everything can be repaired! Quickly "repair" so that bright, active children fit better into our functional adult world? To help the children? Or to take away these "annoying", unpleasant children from adults? What is still “healthy” and where does the justified and actually indicated diagnosis and therapy begin? Questions upon questions!
For the sake of clarity, I would like to state: My remarks are NOT about ACTUALLY DIAGNOSED CHILDREN PERCEPTION DISORDERS AND DISEASES, but about HEALTHY, restless or above AVERAGE ACTIVE CHILDREN!
Our observation of this everyday scene described at the beginning can stimulate us to a variety of thoughts and hypotheses. It is by no means about assigning blame, but about mindful perception!
At first sight we see a toddler at preschool age who is apparently pursuing his great urge to move.